Children's mental health promotion sentences

[For parents, you can change your behavior after reading it]

1. Don’t always say “I’m doing this for your own good.” Listen to your child first: “Do I feel good about it?””

2. The reward for getting 100 points in the exam is not as good as a hug when you cry.

3. When a child loses his temper, it’s not because he’s disobedient, but because his “emotional tank” is full.

4. You can calm down if you have emotions. Don’t use your children as a punching bag.

5. Don’t compare your child with others. His only opponent in this life is the person he was yesterday.

[For children, something they can remember in their minds]

1. If you don’t want to talk, don’t. It’s not your fault that you’re unhappy.

2. Don’t bear it when you are bullied. Your parents and teachers will always be by your side.

3. You don’t need to be a perfect child. People will love you even if you make mistakes.

4. If you have something on your mind and you can’t find anyone to talk to, call 12355 for free and someone will listen.

5. It’s normal to like boys or girls, your feelings are always the most important

[Public publicity, good memories spread quickly]

1. Children’s health is not only about their height, but also about their psychology.”

2. Less “chicken baby” anxiety and more psychological care

3. Give enough psychological nourishment since childhood, and you will have your own brilliance when you grow up.

4. Paying attention to children’s psychology means investing in children’s lives.

5. Behind every “problem child” there is a psychological gap that needs to be seen.

In fact, these three categories don’t need to be so rigidly divided. Many short sentences can be used anywhere. When I was doing science popularization in the community, I used to use clichés like "pay attention to children's psychology and protect the flowers of the motherland" at the beginning. I printed them as posters and posted them on the community bulletin board. After half a month, no one even asked. Later, it was changed to "Don't always say that I am doing it for your own good. Let your child tell me first whether it feels good to me." That day, three mothers talked to me and said that they had just said this to their children the day before. The child's eyes turned red on the spot. After being bored for a long time, he said, "You never asked me if I felt good."

When it comes to this, there are actually two different views in the industry. One group believes that publicity must be professional enough and must include terms such as "emotional regulation", "secure attachment" and "social support system" to appear authoritative and reliable.； The other group believes that publicity to the public does not need to have so many barriers. If you say "allowing emotional catharsis", it is not as effective as saying "it's okay to cry". I have been doing popular science on children’s psychology for 6 years, and I firmly stand on the latter side - after all, the purpose of our publicity is never to show off professionalism. It is to let even a grandma with only a primary school education take a look when she picks up her grandson from school. If she can swallow back the words "don't cry" and replace them with "What, baby, are you wronged?", then the purpose of the publicity has been achieved.

Last year we were doing publicity at a local primary school for migrant children, and we posted the sentence "If you don't want to talk, don't say it, it's not your fault if you're unhappy" on the wall at the corner of the stairs. The words were printed in large letters, and there was also a little cartoon character squatting on the ground and hugging his knees. Two weeks later, the school’s psychology teacher came to me and told me that there was a fourth-grade boy who was usually very introverted. He had been robbed of his pocket money by his senior classmates before, but he didn’t dare to say anything. He just held it in, and his grades dropped very quickly because he was distracted in class. After seeing this sentence, he took the initiative to knock on the door of the psychology room the next day. The first thing he said when he entered the door was, "Teacher, it’s not my fault that I saw the unhappy writing on the wall. I want to talk to you about it." You see, the power of this short sentence is really much more effective than printing a whole thick science manual.

Many people always try to make up short promotional sentences with rhymes and contrasts. In fact, there is really no need. None of the above short sentences strictly rhyme, but each sentence is taken from a real consulting case. The saying, "The reward for getting 100 points on a test is not as good as a hug when you cry." This comes from a case I came across the year before last. The child's parents bought him the latest toys every time he got a perfect score on the test. But last time he scored 95 points on the math test, he didn't dare to go home. He squatted in the corridor for more than half an hour, crying and telling me, "I'm afraid if I don't do well on the test, they won't love me anymore." You said that at this time you were telling parents to "build a secure attachment relationship", how could he understand? Throw this sentence to him, and he will immediately realize where he went wrong before.

Of course, this does not mean that professional expressions cannot be used at all. If it is for publicity in professional settings such as schools and medical institutions, it will be more credible to use professional expressions appropriately. For example, "Children's psychological screening should be as early as possible, early detection and early intervention have a better prognosis." This is very suitable to be placed on the wall of the pediatric department of a hospital or a school psychology room. The target audience already has a certain cognitive foundation, and being professional can dispel their concerns.

Oh, by the way, these short sentences are not fixed templates. They can be adjusted according to different scenarios. For example, when doing publicity in rural areas, you can replace the words "emotional water tank" with something more down-to-earth, and change it to "Don't hit the child when he is angry. Ask him what grievances he has in his heart." It is just as useful. To put it bluntly, publicity is never about writing beautiful words, but about speaking words into people's hearts. It can really make people pay more attention to children's little emotions, which is better than anything else.